"We are by nature, scorekeepers. We crave feedback. We want to know how we're doing. Keeping score is really about defining reality. It's the way we determine what counts and what doesn't count. To talk about how we keep score is really to talk about how we define success."


To consider how we keep score in life and then pursue a focus on growing in those areas which count for all of eternity.

Discussion Questions:

John opened with the premise that everyone figuratively keeps score in one way or another. "Keeping score" is about determining what counts and what doesn't count. He then gave different examples of biblical characters and how they kept score. Recall for a moment how he said each of these biblical characters kept score:

Cain (Genesis 4:1-18) kept score by measuring his spiritual status against Abel.

Jacob's sons (Genesis 37) kept score on the basis of who was most loved by their father.

Saul (1 Samuel 18:6-16) kept score by measuring his popularity against David's.

The Rich Fool (Luke 12:13-21) kept score with money.

How severe were the consequences for keeping score in the wrong way in each of these accounts?

Are people, in your experience, tempted to keep score in the same ways as Cain, Jacob's sons, Saul, and the Rich fool?

Are the consequences still disastrous? Can you think of any examples that are appropriate to share?

We should be encouraged! Did you notice that the way John said we grow inwardly rather than trying to just focus on externals is through:

  • Practicing Confession
  • Spending Time With Friends Who Speak the Truth
  • Evaluating our Use of Time, Talents, and Treasure
  • Asking questions like "Am I less easily irritated? Discouraged?"
  • Am I singing and worshiping?

These are areas that we target at Pinnacle Forum. Our goal is to help one another keep score in the right way. Be sure you practice at least 1-2 or two of these things today. Pray together. Ask one another how you are doing.

Most important : Think about this picture of keeping score through the lens of the gospel or good news.

  • In reality, do any of us score enough points in life? (Romans 3:23)
  • How is it that those who have rebelled against God can be acceptable (John 3:16, Romans 8:1, Romans 5:6, Ephesians 2:8-9).

Remind one another of the basic of the gospel. This post "What do Christians Mean When They Reference the Gospel or Good News?" will help you review.


John encouraged us to spend as much time on the inner self this week as we spend on the outer self. Make that a goal. One of the things you might do is evaluate the fruit of the spirit in your life.

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, [23] gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23

Prayerfully score yourself in those areas. How are you doing? How would the people closest to you say you are doing?